Best Answer: RitchWilliams
That your husband wants you to be involved in his affair.
There is SO much to this whole threesome thing that it would take pages to cover, but I'll be brief.
If a guy is doing it right? If he's paying attention to YOU the way he should, he wouldn't have the time or energy to add an extra girl to the mix. I guy can't give 110% to two women. The best he can do there is 55% and is that really worth your time?
And if you think that you're not competing with this women, you need to think again. She's the shiny new toy and often you become 'old reliable'. You're beautiful and sexy and great in bed, but very often, 'shiny new' gives it a little something that can really have a detrimental affect on your relationship.
Ask yourself this, would you care if he had an affair with another women without you? Probably you would. So what makes this any different. Only difference is? You're here taking part in the affair and that's just sad.
Other Answers (15)
Mai C
Tell your husband you would like to have the threesome with him and another man first as an example and if it works then you will have another threesome with a girl. Discuss the details of the first threesome and if he is OK with that, you choose the other man and see how it goes. If he is OK with all of that, including the fact that you would like the man to stay the night in the same bed with you obliging them both on demand, Tell him he can be friends with the other man first if he so wishes, but you will be after just the sex. If he is OK with all that then can you allow him the other girl.
turn his thing into your thing and see what he says.
KingAndrew III
If you have the desires to have sex with another girl then make friends with someone and then invite them to join you and your husband in bed. If your not into the threesome, but do not want to hurt your husbands feelings, agree to the threesome, but first you want two men, then you will do the two women. We will see how his insecurities are when you tell him that you want another man first. Good luck.
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Ok don't do it it will ruin your relationship. You'll always worry if he's cheating on you or that he's not attracted to you anymore. It's a bad idea. Trust me if he really loves you he wouldn't have tried to convince you after you already said no. He must be into this other girl and just wants your permission to **** her. Sorry if it's a little harsh but it the truth.
Snake
Be honest with him. Sit down and explain exactly what your reservations are and make sure he understands them. The key to something like this is a lot of communication. Above all, if you don't feel comfortable doing it, then, don't, and stick to your decision. And don't do anything like saying you want a threesome with two guys first to make sure the score will be even. Playing silly *** games like that is never a good idea, and relationships are not about keeping score (at least not successful ones).
Good luck.
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First you can't feel pushed into it or else u will only resent him...u need to want this to do it
Second you need to set some ground rules that are both mutual
Third is it going to be a MWW or a MWM? Is there room to expand on that, is this a one time thing or is going to be a setup where its monthly, bimonthly etc
Bottom line...both of u need to communicate and get out what u both want.
I had a threesome this past wkend that didn't involve my husband but with my galpal and a guy...it was a load of fun and I wanted to bring the guy home to my husband (he's not bi) but the guy chickened out.
It can bring excitment, openness or it can destroy u that is why u both need to talk!
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u need to ask urself a few questions first.
1, are u a jealous person?
2, will he request it again?
3, why the need for it?
4, what are the chances of him sleeping with some one else while ur not in?
5, will he throw it back in ur face at a later date?
6, do u feel comfortable with ur body?
7, do think u could be friends with a girl who gives ur husband orgasms?
8, are u comfortable with the idea of sharing the intimate relationship u and ur husband have with a stranger?
if u answer any of these questions negatively then i would seriously advise u not to do it.
but if u think u can push all emotion aside to please ur husband, then do it. but trust me, it will screw ur head up. good luck xx
townes
I think it's a good way to mess up your marriage. My ex-wife used to want to share me with her friends sometimes, but other times she was insanely jealous. So I said no - it would've been fun, but I figured I'd have paid for it on the insanely jealous days.
It has to be something you both know you're comfortable with. Some people are. But even the most enthusiastic proponents of open marriage will tell you that the vast majority of couples can't handle it.
Kat S
Be honest with yourself - and him. If you do not want to do it then don't! It is for some people, and isn't for others and that doesn't make it right or wrong, but do not kid yourself or you will suffer. (Also if you want a get out clause say you found a perfect GUY who is willing, and see how he reacts!
pissedmomma
Don't do it. The 'Marriage Bed' is for two consenting adults ... not for more. That sort of behavior should be explored outside of marriage ... not saying that there's anything wrong with it ... but if you're into it then why get married? When you cross that line someone always gets hurt and so does the marriage.
alrozz
I know a guy that is married and had a threesome with his wife and two other guys. It ruined her for life. They divorced and she has since got married four times and divorced. Do yourself a favor tell your husband selfish bastard to kiss your azz.
QuiteStupidPerson
He is trying to find a polite way to say he wants to cheat on you. You will hate, it will be awkward, and you will regret it for the rest of your life.
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Fun... But I think it would be easier to do it with some "random person"... If you become friends with someone then she is always around. I think that would be a little weird.
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tell yu husband to stop this and enjoy life with yu.
blueBUTred
leave him..what he wants is to put you to hell.
jl
tell him no problem you get to pick the other guy...
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